Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Emotional Intimacy
Emotional Intimacy
Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. The definition of Intimacy generally refers to a state of familiarity, closeness, affection, and deep understanding that occurs at many different levels in healthy loving relationship. Emotional intimacy is a combination of sharing a deep level of communication that facilitates a union rooted in a closeness that is build upon a trusting foundation.
However, when relationships begin to breakdown there are signs that manifest in communication problems, a decrease of physical and emotional closeness, as well as an overall change in the amount of comfort and trust. There are reasons that intimacy can be lacking in a relationship. I would like to encourage you to consider the following points that can help to increase emotional intimacy.
Firstly, Improve communication by honestly sharing your vision for the relationship and by learning to openly discuss your deepest self with a true concern for the other. Consider the practice mindfullness with the other to build a strong foundation for being present while creating a newness in each moment and experience. Secondly, Commit to making time for the relationship and explore different ways to increase joy by sharing activities that encourage closeness. Try to Establish time for activities were sharing affection and personal feeling is encouraged.
The previous points are important to provide you with information to help increase intimacy in your relationship and maintain well being. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your marriage and relationships.
"Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships"
Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy and get started today: (O) 516-484-2829 or (C) 914-960-2723.
Fondly,
Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT
Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. The definition of Intimacy generally refers to a state of familiarity, closeness, affection, and deep understanding that occurs at many different levels in healthy loving relationship. Emotional intimacy is a combination of sharing a deep level of communication that facilitates a union rooted in a closeness that is build upon a trusting foundation.
However, when relationships begin to breakdown there are signs that manifest in communication problems, a decrease of physical and emotional closeness, as well as an overall change in the amount of comfort and trust. There are reasons that intimacy can be lacking in a relationship. I would like to encourage you to consider the following points that can help to increase emotional intimacy.
Firstly, Improve communication by honestly sharing your vision for the relationship and by learning to openly discuss your deepest self with a true concern for the other. Consider the practice mindfullness with the other to build a strong foundation for being present while creating a newness in each moment and experience. Secondly, Commit to making time for the relationship and explore different ways to increase joy by sharing activities that encourage closeness. Try to Establish time for activities were sharing affection and personal feeling is encouraged.
The previous points are important to provide you with information to help increase intimacy in your relationship and maintain well being. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your marriage and relationships.
"Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships"
Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy and get started today: (O) 516-484-2829 or (C) 914-960-2723.
Fondly,
Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Relational Problem Solving
Relational Problem Solving
Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. Relational problem solving is basic to all forms of life and is conceptually a description of the way in which individuals in various relationship settings access resources to solve problems. This information can be applied to social colonies in nature where a form of negotiation and problem solving is necessary to resolve tension, conflict and make decisions. Problem solving is to a degree an instinctual gift that is inherent in our structure, which is more apparent in lower life forms. Naturally we are provided with a biologcal, genetic, and physiological internal structure that is the necessary foundation to improve upon and aquire problem solving skills through social and environmental interaction.
The etiology of resolving problems can be traced back to the type of modeling we were exposed to by our primary care givers in childhood and adolelscence. By adulthood we have a set of developed problem solving resources that we can use to address problems that require a felt sense of emotional, psychological, and physical resolution. During adulthood there is an oppurtunity to learn new skills which may be more conscious, adaptive, and functional then those that were modeled in a possibly not so healthy setting, though the positve ones may be retained and build upon. I would like to encourage you to reflect more upon this subject matter and ask you to consider the following ways to engage in healthy relational problem solving.
Engage in the art of encouargement by emphaszing the positive aspects of a situation that can lend itself to techniques that strengthen and improves the individuals sense of self as well as the couple or family system as a whole. (Ex: use techniques such as affirming instead of discounting which will help to build optimism and openness that increase the likelyhood that behaviors are more adaptive and effective to improve upon the situation.)
Addressing resistence to change by cooperating and fostering the unfolding of denial by implementing strategies that encourage the use of negotiating skills and compromise. (Ex: implementing a technique such as contracting for results will facilitate focusing on problems while lowering resistance and having a clear positive direction to address obstacles with a defined clear goal that is explicit and realistic).
The previous list of skills are important to provide you with guidance to help build healthy problem solving into your relationships for both couples and families. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your relationships.
"Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships"
Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy:
http://www.counselingservicesdirect.com
info@counselingservicesdirect.com
References: Sherman, R., Oresky, P., & Rountree, Y. (1991). Solving Problems in Couple and Family Therapy. Techniques and Tactics. Brunner/Mazell.
Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. Relational problem solving is basic to all forms of life and is conceptually a description of the way in which individuals in various relationship settings access resources to solve problems. This information can be applied to social colonies in nature where a form of negotiation and problem solving is necessary to resolve tension, conflict and make decisions. Problem solving is to a degree an instinctual gift that is inherent in our structure, which is more apparent in lower life forms. Naturally we are provided with a biologcal, genetic, and physiological internal structure that is the necessary foundation to improve upon and aquire problem solving skills through social and environmental interaction.
The etiology of resolving problems can be traced back to the type of modeling we were exposed to by our primary care givers in childhood and adolelscence. By adulthood we have a set of developed problem solving resources that we can use to address problems that require a felt sense of emotional, psychological, and physical resolution. During adulthood there is an oppurtunity to learn new skills which may be more conscious, adaptive, and functional then those that were modeled in a possibly not so healthy setting, though the positve ones may be retained and build upon. I would like to encourage you to reflect more upon this subject matter and ask you to consider the following ways to engage in healthy relational problem solving.
Engage in the art of encouargement by emphaszing the positive aspects of a situation that can lend itself to techniques that strengthen and improves the individuals sense of self as well as the couple or family system as a whole. (Ex: use techniques such as affirming instead of discounting which will help to build optimism and openness that increase the likelyhood that behaviors are more adaptive and effective to improve upon the situation.)
Addressing resistence to change by cooperating and fostering the unfolding of denial by implementing strategies that encourage the use of negotiating skills and compromise. (Ex: implementing a technique such as contracting for results will facilitate focusing on problems while lowering resistance and having a clear positive direction to address obstacles with a defined clear goal that is explicit and realistic).
The previous list of skills are important to provide you with guidance to help build healthy problem solving into your relationships for both couples and families. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your relationships.
"Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships"
Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy:
http://www.counselingservicesdirect.com
info@counselingservicesdirect.com
References: Sherman, R., Oresky, P., & Rountree, Y. (1991). Solving Problems in Couple and Family Therapy. Techniques and Tactics. Brunner/Mazell.
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